The Premium on Space
In Kansas, at least in general, space is cheap. I know that when we built our house, land was one of the cheaper things. Even in KC, the rent on a fair sized apartment wasn’t unreasonable. It is interesting, then, to see the restriction of space, even in a “small” (by Korean terms) city like Pohang.
The first time it hit me was when we went to a Walmart-like department store. It was 5 stories tall (with the top two being parking garage). I thought, man, this place must be huge. It was big, but even with the 3 floors combined, it was probably a bit smaller than a Super Walmart or Target. The fact seems to be that instead of building out, Koreans must build up. It seems like everything is multistory here, and I would venture that a single story building isn’t a good use of the land.
Another thing that struck me is more of an interior design issue. Inside almost every building, there are large mirrors. Not just in lobbies or bathrooms, I’ve seen them in staircases, hallways, churches, pretty much anywhere people will be spending time or walking through. There may be other cultural importance behind mirrors, but one simple reason why they may be used is because they make rooms appear bigger. The bigger the mirror, the more (imaginary) space.
Nicknames
One of our students has had the nickname “White Pig” for a quite a while, apparently. She’s a great girl, and hardly a pig by any American standard. But after talking with her and others a bit, it because very clear that it was a term of endearment. This isn’t surprising, given the Chinese zodiac and Korean celebrations of the animal-themed lunar New Years. However, it was a bit surprising to find out that mothers will often call their young daughters pigs (probably more like piglets, from the sound of it) and friends gladly call each other pigs. It isn’t unbelievable, just odd.
One of the students now calls me Camel, because I have a beard, and when I was drinking water from a fountain on a hot day I pointed out that it stored water like a camel hump. If you want to get attention in Korea, grow a beard. And be American.
Eating Out
Eating out in Korea is nice. It’s significantly different from America. For one thing, it’s cheaper. A huge meal is like $4-5 USD. The only meals that cost a lot are American food, usually steak, which starts at about $20. For a Kansas guy, that’s a ton, and honestly, I feel like I can do without, mostly. You can’t get Mexican food here, apparently, but that’s about the only complaint I have. You can get a good sized meal some places for $2 or so. Oh, and no tip, and no tax. So you get a 4000 Won meal, you pay 4000 Won (~$4).
The dishes all come with more than enough side dishes, which they usually refill. Peppers, Kimchi (Kimchi comes with everything, and there is a wide variety of good and bad tasting Kimchi, so you may not like the Kimchi everywhere you go), dumplings, pretty much anything. When people say Korean food is hot, I think they should really be warning you more about the temperature than the spiciness. Most soups come superheated from stoves that apparently connect to magma pipes in the center of the earth. I have not run across many dishes that I would deem uncomfortably spicy, and the few that were, were no where near as spicy as Thai food.
Meals usually come with a tiny metal cup of water and a bottle of water or a water cooler nearby. Fill up your own glass when it’s empty, it’s not like they get tips. If you ask for water, they’ll usually bring you more, free of charge. That is, not place I’ve gone yet has charged for more water. (On an interesting side note, at larger markets, sacks cost extra). Food is usually served very quickly (IE: within 5 -10 minutes of ordering, at the most) As an American, I drink probably 4 times more at a meal than a Korean. This is not because the meal is spicy, but because we just drink more. They hardly ever drink during the meals.
The meals are often taken at short tables, so you must sit cross legged, or at least agree with the person that you’re across from that you can stretch out sitting “normal”, legs under the table. You will get a little, flat pillow. It is more for your ankles than your butt. Almost all floors are wood. Shoes are taken off before you get to the table. Here is some sage advice. GET SHOES THAT ARE EASY TO TAKE OFF AND ON. I didn’t. This was a mistake. I take off my shoes 3-4 times a day on a normal day, and Koreans do it like it’s a NASCAR pit stop. You will only be slowing them down, no matter how many of them are in your group.
Korean chopsticks are usually metal, shorter than Japanese style chopsticks, and have flat handles. This makes them a bit harder for me to use than the fast-food style disposable ones, but I’m catching up. You also usually get a spoon, which is nice. Some times you can get a fork if you ask for it, but don’t count on it. You should be mildly proficient with chopsticks before you come. I’m not talking Karate-Kid-Catching-Flies, just picking stuff up, like beans or rice. You’ll be eating off of many small plates, and you’ll be sharing a lot of food with others. Don’t come to Korea if you are terrified of germs. It’s Asian style personal space and property at its best, and while they are usually very respectful to not be totally Korean to Americans, not all of them will be, and certainly none of them will be all the time. It hasn’t been a problem for me yet.
The food is good quality and almost always well prepared. Food here seems much healthier, and less greasy. It has lots of spice and a significant amount of salt, especially fish. But on the whole, it leaves you feeling better than most American meals. The portions are huge. I don’t know how Americans get a bad rap for eating too much. I have been able to finish maybe 3 of my meals here, so far. Not finishing a meal seems common, though, and doesn’t seem to be an insult.
Expect a lot of garlic and pepper. And Kimchi. They make Kimchi dumplings, Kimchi soup, Water Kimchi, normal Kimchi, fried Kimchi…and so on. If you can eat Kimchi, you should never starve here. If you can’t, you can avoid it mostly, but I wouldn’t suggest it. Eating American style all the time totally isolates you form their culture. This is a culture that revolves around eating with others, and just doing things with others. Anything that you refuse to do with them is an experience you won’t get and it will keep you from making friends and understanding them. They are very social. If you’re nice and genuinely interested in learning about them, they reciprocate. Expect to be invited to things.
We had to make it clear early on that we didn’t want to just eat American food. We didn’t need to sit at tall tables. We could handle chopsticks. They were very eager to make allowances for us, but I think we gained a lot more by not taking them up on it. For one thing, we don’t really make those allowances for our visitors. They are a lot more allowing of our inability to speak Korean than Americans would be to a poor English-Speaking Korean. But we still pretty much have to have a Korean speaker to order. I could wing it, but I wouldn’t know what I’d be getting.
Menus are usually on the wall. The restaurant you go to usually only has a few dishes. Maybe ten different ones. Maybe only three. So the restaurant you choose kind of decides the available food, in a much more specific way than in America. You might go order Chinese and pick from a menu of Chinese dishes, or go to a Mexican restaurant and pick form many Mexican dishes there. In Korea, it would be like choosing a Taco restaurant, and having 4 or 5 types of tacos, and a few blocks down there is a burrito restaurant with 3 or 4 burritos. It’s not a bad system, but everyone in the group pretty much needs to want the same thing.
There are restaurants everywhere. Some times they are just a nice front end to people’s houses. This isn’t bad, as it keeps the costs down. I have not seen anything in a Korean restaurant that was unclean. They’re pretty clean people. You’d probably be much worse off picking 4-5 Small Kansas restaurants and pitting them against Korean ones, as far as cleanliness goes. But again, you can’t be absolutely germ phobic.
Bathrooms are a little less pleasant than in America, but not disgustingly so. There are still some places with squat toilets, but urinals and sit down style toilets are common. This might be a bigger deal for women than men, but since I mostly use urinals outside of the dorm, it has never been an issue, and they tend to clean those types of places daily, if not thoroughly.
You can eat dog here. I have. It’s good. Tastes like roast beef. That is a social stigma that you’d do well to get over, and if you can’t, try hanging around with some cows for a while. They are worthless aside from eating and leather. Same for the dogs. They aren’t pets. They’re for eatin’. But it is a dish that you can easily avoid if you’re worried about it. If you have invented some moral qualm about eating dog, you probably won’t have to worry, because I had to actively seek out dog to eat. And it’s not in everything. Korean food is pretty straightforward. After you’ve had dog, you’d notice it in almost any dish.
Eating is one of my favorite things in Korea. Parking costs more, housing (at least in Seoul) costs more, Gas costs more, and shampoo costs more. But health care and food both costs a ton less than in America. Since I’ve been healthy so far, I haven’t had occasion to use the health care system. But the restaurant system is a great value at a low price. And once you get used to what to expect, it’s far smoother than most American restaurants.